Men Often Misread Women's Sexual Cues: Study

FRIDAY, Dec. 16 (HealthDay News) -- Men often have difficulty accurately reading a woman's level of interest in them, a new study finds.

In what should come as no surprise to any woman who's spent time in the dating world, a certain type of guy tends to think all women want him, while other guys just can't seem to pick up on the cues.

The study included 96 male and 103 female U.S. college undergraduates who took part in a "speed-meeting" exercise that involved talking for three minutes to each of five members of the opposite sex.

Before the exercise, the participants rated their own attractiveness and were assessed for their desire for a short-term sexual encounter. After each conversation, the participants rated the other person on a number of measures, including physical attractiveness and their perceived sexual interest.

The researchers found that:

  • Men who wanted a short-term sexual encounter were more likely to overestimate a woman's desire for them.
  • Men who believed they were "hot" also thought the women were hot for them, but men who were actually considered attractive by women did not think this way.
  • The more attractive a woman was to a man, the more likely he was to overestimate her interest.
  • Women tended to underestimate men's desire.

The study appears in an upcoming issue of the journal Psychological Science.

"There are two ways you can make an error as a man," study author Carin Perilloux, a psychologist at Williams College in Williamstown, Mass., said in a journal news release. "Either you think, 'Oh, wow, that woman's really interested in me' -- and it turns out she's not. There's some cost to that," such as embarrassment.

The other male error is failing to realize that a women is interested in him.

"He misses out on a mating opportunity. That's a huge cost in terms of reproductive success," Perilloux explained.

When it comes to human evolution, it's likely that males who overestimated their appeal to females and pursued them even at the risk of being rebuffed were more likely to reproduce and pass this trait to their genetic heirs, the researchers suggested.

More information

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  • Aj  •  5 months ago
    We need "researchers" at colleges to tell us this?
    • mindshift 5 months ago
      Actually, if you look over the questions in Yahoo's Answers, you will see many people of both sexes asking "does he/she like me?"
    • DaveP 5 months ago
      AJ, I'm with you. Just reading the title of the article, "Men Often Misread Women's Sexual Cues", my first response was, "No kidding!" I could have told them this during my informal 'research', if you want to call it that, as a college student 20 years ago. On my campus, there was always misunderstanding among those who wanted to be nice guys and girls, and there were always those jerky guys who somehow ended up with a lot of dates (some of them nice girls who didn't know any shy nice guys were interested) and girls who got labeled some very mean names because they said yes to a lot of dates, and/or went after a few themselves. I thought this was human nature, common knowledge...but oh, thank heaven, finally we have a formal research study to confirm it all. Aren't we relieved now?
    • Gentlepup 5 months ago
      Just a professor getting another article out in time for tenure review. College students must be so sick of taking surveys like this...
  • jimpsonseed  •  5 months ago
    Yeah, because women are always so transparent, lol. I love the ladies, but why can't we all just say what's on our minds? Would that be so hard?
    • Clinton 5 months ago
      hmm.. it probably would be pretty hard if every woman informed guys when they were 'interested'.
    • Britney Spears 5 months ago
      I would certainly be hard. But that's the point I think in this sort of thing.
  • dew-rdr  •  5 months ago
    Funny, there are places in this world where there's no question. Women, like men, are adult enough to say, "Hi. I'm interested!" In the U.S.... I don't know. I guess I just don't equate the up turned nose, avoidance of eye contact, argumentativeness, and addiction to the electronic leash as "interest".
    • Britney Spears 5 months ago
      Which places are those? Seriously...
    • The Emperors Teleprompter 5 months ago
      Yes. But Dudes who troll in comment boards and call themselves Britney Spears are even more a-s-swholish
    • Britney Spears 5 months ago
      It certainly isn't the UK or Canada or the middle east or most of Asia either. Now, which is this mythical land where women are not so ego centric and paranoid?
  • GaB  •  Monroe, Michigan  •  4 months ago
    Really? Some school paid some folks to do this study? What a waste of money!
  • El Savior  •  5 months ago
    Ladies, men aren't mindreaders. It doesn't hurt to make the first move and be blatantly obvious about it.
    • RealityChk 5 months ago
      There are women who have done that actually. Unfortunately they are labeled as HOs' and Sluts. Women just can't win...lol
    • El Savior 5 months ago
      By other women! But that doesn't matter to us guys.
    • HITMAN 5 months ago
      AMEN Jim.......and RealityChk......the people who Do that sort of "labeling" are ALWAYS other women who are either jealous of the chick with guts or just Too fat and ugly to even Buy a pe'nis for the night! Now tell me I'm wrong!
  • AJ  •  5 months ago
    so what are the clues women give that they are interested?
    • Gentlepup 5 months ago
      fleeting eye contact, shy smile, hands near face with open palm, giggling, laughing at any little joke, running fingers through her hair, asking you questions, acting as though you are the most interesting person in the world, coming back from the restroom with fresh lipstick, letting high heeled shoes dangle off of foot, gently rubbing the rim of her glass with her fingers, removing bulky clothing (coats, etc), and slipping you her phone number on a napkin. ???
    • AJ 5 months ago
      you answered the crap out of that question. thanks.
    • AJ 5 months ago
      BTW, if you are doing any of those things right now to me send me your number
  • nebline  •  5 months ago
    $$$ = (i)
  • Sylvia  •  Silver City, United States  •  5 months ago
    Not all women are the same and not all men are the same. My friends go out and we are attracted to totally different men. Usually most of my friends who like a guy will not approach them or even make eye contact. If I like a guy, I will go up to them and say "dont I know you from somewhere" and that breaks the ice!! :)
  • Britney Spears  •  5 months ago
    Even if they are interested they want to do no more than take quick glances and smile. Get close and you get the cat like 'I'm ignoring you' treatment. Yeah like you'd dare to make conversation after that. Enjoy the more a-s-swholish guys if that's what you like.
  • Jeffrey  •  Altadena, United States  •  5 months ago
    This proves it that women are not attracted to arrogant, self absorbed, or self focused men!
  • Liz  •  5 months ago
    makes sense, met my husband on new years eve 7 yrs ago and he didn't realize I was interested till midnite when I asked him to kiss me. Figured it out then.
  • Sherry  •  5 months ago
    Because I am a friendly person, and fairly attractive, most men think I am flirting with them or want to date them, when I'm only just being nice or polite. I hear a lot of women say this. If a woman is nice to a man he thinks we want him. Then they label us a #$%$ because we're not interested in dating them, when they are actually the ones being self-absorbed jerks.
  • Frog Creep  •  5 months ago
    I am lonely...
  • bruinfolife  •  5 months ago
    In the animal world as well as in "civilized" society the most "colorful" males or the best providers get laid and pass on their genes. End of story. How's that for a study.
  • jim  •  5 months ago
    We can't read your minds ladies, and now we have the scientific evidence to back it up.
  • Bill  •  De Forest, United States  •  5 months ago
    I never had a clue....but then, they never had a clue about what I wanted emotionally too. Women are also dense in their own peculiar way.
  • KABOOM  •  5 months ago
    It boils down to Traits!.... Instinctively a woman is looking for those traits that she wants in her future young, boldness, assertiveness, strong, broad shoulders, tall, blue eyes.....etc,etc... Sometimes it's just a feeling they get when around a man. Some of them notice it right away, others do not. Women give off signals...some by gesture other times by scent (yes that's correct...I said scent!) when they are ready to mate, have sex, or are just plain interested. A woman might have casual sex with a "pretty boy" but will want a baby from the "rough looking man". The problem with men is that they have become pr-madonna sissy la la's. How can you pick up on each others sexual scent with all that cologne you wear and hair product? I'll bet you spend just as much time primping in front of a mirror as the ladies do! Those of you that miss those female signals are because you are so self absorbed that you can't see past your own "I'm so coolness" and "these #$%$ are here for me" attitude that you don't get laid as much as most guys who are actually nice guys and treat women nicely. Don't wear any fancy cologne.. spend more time noticing what they are doing and and less about what you are doing and you might score more. Think of it as hunting prey..you know what the animal is doing or going to do by how it is acting in a particular setting....ears back, tail down, grazing.....take your shot. Ears up, tail up, not grazing and if you move it will run. Get back to the basics......women are actually simple creature that are very easy to catch if you know how to "hunt" them by their mannerisms! Slow down...stop and "smell" the ladies!
  • solo  •  5 months ago
    I'm out of the vaginal vortex and if you're smart fellas, you should too. I can't tell you how liberating it is!! I'm never going back!
  • mstrpetie  •  5 months ago
    Bottom line: Woman need a reason,. Men just need a place.
  • jim  •  Alba, United States  •  5 months ago
    Ladies why do you try to communicate via "cues" in the first place? What's wrong with unambiguous verbal communication?