Switched at Birth Girls Want to Stay With Wrong Moms

A pair of 12-year-old girls who discovered they were accidentally switched at birth want to stay with the mothers who have been raising them rather than go to their real parents.

The girls have grown up just a few miles away from each other in the town of Kopeisk in the Ural Mountains of eastern Russia.

Their mothers gave birth in the same maternity ward just 15 minutes apart in 1999, and their infant daughters were inadvertently given the wrong name tags.

Their true identities were revealed after the ex-husband of Yuliya Belyaeva, one of the mothers, refused to pay for child care because his daughter, Irina, looked nothing like him. After conducting several DNA tests it emerged that neither adult was Irina's biological parent.

"The judge couldn't believe it," Belyaeva told the BBC. "She said she'd only seen cases like this on TV and didn't know what to advise us."

The DNA tests sent Belyaeva on a search for her own daughter. She remembered that when she was giving birth, another woman was also in labor in the same ward. She suspected that the maternity ward had mixed up their daughters.

"I made a photocopy of the DNA test results and went straight to the prosecutor's office. There I lodged an official complaint about being given the wrong baby in the maternity hospital," Yuliya said.

Yuliya finally took her search to the local police who managed to trace her biological daughter living just a few miles away with Irina's natural parents.

"It was true," Yuliya remembered. "Their daughter, Anya, was blond and looked just like me and my ex-husband. And our daughter was dark-skinned and had dark hair and looked like the other father. He's a Tajik, and she looked just like him."

"Suddenly my whole world turned upside down and inside out,'' she recalled.

While the girls admit that they were happy to have found each other, neither one wants to leave the family they grew up with even though they are not their biological parents.

"It's terrible for both of them," Yuliya told the BBC. "They've grown up with one set of parents, now they've found out they have a different mother and father. Neither child wants to leave their home. Irina keeps saying to me: 'Mum, please don't give me away!' I comfort her by saying: 'I would never do anything against your wishes. Nothing has changed. I'm still your mother.''

While both families are getting to know each other and are becoming closer, they're suing the hospital and demanding almost $160,000 in damages.

Stories of babies being switched at birth are rare. In 1953, a mix up occurred at Pioneer Memorial Hospital in Heppner, Ore. It was only years later, in May 2009, that the now 56-year- old women discovered they were switched as babies.

DeeAnn Angell of Fossil and Kay Rene Reed of Condon learned about the mistake from an 86-year-old woman who was a former neighbor.

The former neighbor said that one of the girls' mothers, Marjorie Angell, insisted back in 1953 that she had been given the wrong baby after nurses returned from bathing them. Her concerns were ignored. With both sets of parents dead, the Reed and Angell siblings compared notes and family stories, learning that rumors of a mix-up had been around for years. Kay Rene Reed decided to get their DNA tested, and that confirmed the mistake.

They both say they just have to move forward with their lives now, and they celebrated their latest birthday together.

 
  • Hans Vladymir Desmarais  •  6 months ago
    Unfortunate, but beautiful story with a great outcome since they both decide to stay with the moms who raised them. True parents are the ones who raised and cared for you, don't necessarily have to be the biological ones. Best of luck to both families.
    • starlight 6 months ago
      well said.
    • Liz Lemler 6 months ago
      This wouldn't have happened if as soon as the baby was born, they had a sharpie and marked the baby with a secret mark that only they would recognize and no baby snatcher could ever, ever copy.

      -Dwight Schrute.
    • TIGER22 6 months ago
      True parents wouldn't mind paying child care for their kids if they needed to, regardless if the child looked like them or not.The ex-husband is NOT a true parent in my book
  • doodlebug  •  6 months ago
    I'm glad to hear the families are becoming close - that way the girls can still know both sets while remaining secure in the only homes they've known. Very mature decision making!
    • HTNM 6 months ago
      Definitely NOT American...if so, the TYPICAL scenario is diplorably now where the mothers/parents would be suing the hospital for millions and ripping these girls out of the respective families who raised them with little *true decent care* as to what is in the BEST interest of the child's mental stability and well being....
    • Lady Kougar 6 months ago
      I agree Doodlebug
    • Dawn Marie 6 months ago
      Both sets of parents (minus Daddy "I am not going to pay for a child that isnt mine" 12 years down the road--he doesnt deserve either daughter) the other 3 are amazing!! True form of the word "parents"
  • mario  •  6 months ago
    Tribute to both Moms, Salute!
    • Woodman 6 months ago
      Mental problems ahead x 6
    • Gent Castle 6 months ago
      Shut up and go Blow Luigi...
    • Liz Lemler 6 months ago
      If the girls ever say, "You're not my real mom," like most stepchildren or adopted children do during their teenage rants, the moms can remind them that it was the girls' choice to stay. Booyah, lawyered.
  • russells  •  6 months ago
    Apparently, both sets of parents did a good job of raising them so they are to be congratulated.
    • A Yahoo! User 6 months ago
      I don't think the fathers had much of a role. They just screwed and moved on.
  • none  •  6 months ago
    The reporter in the article should have used the word "biological parents" instead of "real parents". I am adopted and I found my biological mother back in 2004. This doesn't mean I don't love my parents; the people who raised me ARE my parents, but I can get to know and love my biological mother too. Truer words have never been spoken more, when said: "Love is something that you can always make more of". Just because each girl loves the families who have raised them, and the parents love the daughters they brought home from the hospital, doesn't mean they can't learn to love their biological parents too.

    Check out the TV series "Swithched At Birth" on ABC Family. It is in hiatus at the moment but I hope they bring it back for another season.
    • Joanne 6 months ago
      So true, I adopted a son many years ago, what a blessing he is to me.
    • Deck 6 months ago
      I adopted my ex-GF's son when she left town with another guy (CPS wasn't impressed) - I wasn't willing to let him suffer. He was so happy when he came home. That was back when he was 3 and he's 7 now.

      I kinda shook my head when someone posted above "A mother's love is unmeasurable." Besides not the right word, but we know what the poster was trying to say... is that parents is not the same as people who reproduce. There are mothers out there with many kids, who don't remember their kids birthdays.

      He's a great kid, and I cherish those moments when I come home and he's happy.

      Someday soon, he'll figure this out and will ask me why Daddy is not his biological father. He is white and I'm black. It was cute when he noticed that... LOL.
    • gs 6 months ago
      TOTALLY AGREE with your comment. "Biological parents" is much better. "Real" in this case is an insult.
  • L  •  6 months ago
    As kids we always teased siblings saying they were switched at birth. This is not supposed to ever really happen, this has to be devistating. When my kids were born, I never left their side and always had a watchful eye over them until I could bring them home from the hospital.
  • mindfree  •  6 months ago
    it shows both are loving, caring parents, very touching... best wishes to both familes.
  • A Yahoo! User  •  6 months ago
    Blood runs deeper than water, but love runs deeper than blood.
  • James  •  6 months ago
    Now this is how you solve a difficult situation. My hat goes off to both families and may they have a great life.
  • Harry  •  6 months ago
    Good Choice by the Girls. Both are happy with the Parents that raised them & that is OK.......
  • Kirara  •  6 months ago
    DNA does not make a family. True family bonds are so much stronger. I am glad that everybody understood this. I just hope that there are not troubles later down the line (Like the ex-husband and the child support)
  • Mrs. R  •  St. Louis, United States  •  6 months ago
    I angered a lot of Nurses when I refused to let them leave the room with my son. They legally cannot take a child without the parents permission so he had all his bathes, shots, and checkups right in front of me. I would not budge. Now I am glad I did.
  • XRVM-1  •  6 months ago
    That's understandable. Ever hear of maternal bonding?
  • jack  •  6 months ago
    The people who raise you ARE your real parents....
  • Oh I get it.............r ...  •  6 months ago
    Says alot about how they were raised, that they want to stay. Good job to the moms and dads for loving the daughters so much. Sure is in contrast to C.A. and other sick moms we read about.
  • Janvier  •  6 months ago
    This story brings to mind the stories in the book The Usurper: an Other Stories. That one was brought to a conclusion. However, I like this story's development so far.. The girls are bonding very well and their parents are adapting well to the new reality.
  • Roscoe  •  6 months ago
    i wonder if the guy still has to pay child support??
  • Robert Smith  •  6 months ago
    I spent over 45 years doing genalogical research on my Smith line. I could only get it back to my Great-Great Granddad, who was named Elisha Smith. I decided to have my DNA tested so that I could possibly connect with the Smith line from which I descend.

    I was shocked when the results came back. I was not closely related to any Smiths in the world. I was genetically a Green or Greene. I was confused. I reviewed my hard data. I started with the 1910 census for my dad's hometown in Illinois. "IT" jumped at me right off the page. My Grandma's next door neighbor was a man named Green.

    I was able to locate several of the man's descendants using the the internet. One man sent me a picture of Mr. Green. There I was. I looked very much like him. I think that my Dad may have known but dedcided against telling me.

    Mr. Green's two sons died from a rare form of cancer. I had the same cancer but with great medical help, I still survive. Science and my curiosty came together to reveal an indescretion over 101 years ago. I am glad that I am here.
  • Bob  •  6 months ago
    160k isn't enough. My mother would have gladly paid twice that just to get rid of me.
  • EA  •  6 months ago
    I came home from school one day, I was about 17 years old. My father was at work and as I came in the door I saw my mother sitting in a chair with tears in her eyes. She told me to sit down because she had something to tell me. I wondered, now what have I done? It was hard for her to get the words out, but she managed. She told me that I was adopted at birth. I had never known this. She asked if I would like to meet my real mother. I said no. I had nothing against my real mother as found out that I was very sick when I was born, and would have died if she kept me. Mom asked me if I had any thing I wanted to ask. I said yes,"Whats for supper tonight". I saw that there was no need to start a drama after all of these years. Now at 65 years old I still feel good about my decision.