Shocking Questions People Ask You after Engagement
Congratulations! So, you have finally got engaged. It has just been an hour that you have exchanged rings, and your relatives and friends have already bombarded you with all sorts of questions. Well, the gathering is always more excited about the entire event than the duo. And, this excitement often leads to many uncomfortable questions. As for them, it does not matter that you are still trying to accept the new change in your life. However, it is the bride-to-be who has to face most of the questions; as it is she who has to adjust in a house. Grooms are mostly pardoned. So, let us look at such sticky questions people may ask soon after you get engaged.
So, when is the D-Day?
Hearing this, you would feel like reacting, “Well, I got engaged only yesterday. Let me at least begin my courtship.” But, you would not speak that out of course. So, if you have a wedding date, answer them back. Otherwise, just say "Our families are discussing it. Let us see what date is finalised." Moreover, if your wedding day is more than a year away, then be prepared for another round of questions like, “How did your family agree for such a long courtship?” or “Why are you waiting for so long?”
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What did you like about him?
Well, expect this question if yours is an arranged marriage. Overenthusiastic relatives might also ask about the conversation the two of you had before saying a 'yes'. Topics like 'the first meeting', 'his qualities that impressed you the most' are the most frequent ones. However, the most annoying questions come from our snoopy aunts who unhesitatingly ask, “Does he drink or smoke?”, “Ladka karta kya hai?" (What does the guy do?) and “How much does he earn?”
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Will you work after marriage?
Your feminist contemporaries and conservative aunts (for obvious reasons of course!) will surely ask this question. If you say 'no', then the follow-up question would be, “What is the use of studying so much?” or “How can you just be at home all day?” You might feel the urge of replying with, “Someone please tell all these people that marriage comes with loads of responsibilities. There is nothing wrong with me if I just want to enjoy being married for a while and cook for my husband. I can always work when I want to.” And, if you think saying 'yes' would save you from all this nonsense, well then you are mistaken. People will add another set of questions like, “Oh! your in-laws agreed?, and “How will you manage work and home together?”
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Will you be staying in a joint family or a nuclear one?
Well, some relatives wait to pop up this question soon after you exchange rings. Some married friends might also ask you this question, especially those who have had some bitter experience staying in a joint family or with in-laws. If you agree for a 'joint family', then be prepared for a whole range of questions on the kind of in-laws you have, number of brother and sister-in-laws, and many more. However, if you say ‘a nuclear one’, then all you will get to hear is, “Wow, Lucky You!”
Where are you going for your honeymoon?
Well, there is nothing personal when it comes to asking this question to a newly-engaged couple. You might feel like asking them, “Why, do you want to accompany me?” But, you cannot say this. So, if such a question is asked, instead blush a little and then speculate on a few options like “Singapore, Malaysia or Europe” or “We have not yet decided on it?”
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Awkward questions for grooms
Interestingly, not many people ask too many questions to the groom. All they do is just tease him now and then. However, it is the friends who ask many weird questions. Take a look at some of them:
“Bhai drinks toh hogi na reception pe?” (Have you made the arrangements for drinks at your reception party?)
“Bhai, bhabhi ki koi choti behen hai?" (Does your wife-to-be has any younger sister?)
“Koi aakhri ichcha hai toh bata de?” (Well, do you have any last wish to be fulfilled?)
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